The other day, my husband and I were discussing what kind of career path or business we could pursue. He made the comment, “With all we’ve been through, we ought to be able to help others going through the same things.”
“Maybe,” I replied. “But I can’t help but think we should have some measured success in an area first.”
“Well, we could certainly tell people what NOT to do! We’ve at least learned that much.”
There’s a lot of truth in that statement. I heard it said one time that everyone sets an example. Some set the example of what to do, and others of what not to do. So in the interest of “learn from others’ mistakes because you don’t have time to make them all yourself,” I’ve decided to periodically share some of mine to save you some time and frustration. These come from my younger years..say, early 20’s:
1. Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re hungry. You will likely buy a bunch of snacky stuff that will blow your New Year’s resolutions (and your budget).
2. Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re completely full. You will likely pass on the stuff you do need because you just don’t feel you want it right now.
3. Don’t continue to drive your car when the “check oil” light comes on. You will have to replace the engine if you do (or at least I did).
4. Don’t try to reason with a drunk person. You will only get frustrated.
5. Don’t try to reason with an angry person. They won’t listen when they are enraged. Let them calm down. No sense in everyone getting upset.
6. Combine 4 & 5 and just don’t even talk to an angry drunk.
7. Don’t ignore the advice of people who have demonstrated they know what they are talking about. Peers often tell us what we want to hear instead of what we need to hear because they have limited experience like us.
8. Probably the most important “what not to do” I learned in this period of my life was: Don’t wait until you have “fixed it” or have finally “gotten it right” before returning to God. If you do, you waste valuable communion time with your heavenly Father. He knows you’re a screw-up. He already knows how you’ve screwed up. He’s already provided the means of your forgiveness. And He will give you the strength to get it right when you can’t on your own. He loves you so much, more than you can ever comprehend, and wants you back in His presence.
We will start with that. I’ll add more in future blogs. Right now I want to hear from you. What would you tell someone to NOT do?