What’s It Worth To You?

It’s the beginning of March! Spring is around the corner and is even showing up in some places. How are your New Year’s resolutions coming along? “Well Tammy, why would you bring up something like that?!? The past is the past and we will just leave those there, ok?”

We all have habits and choices needing adjustment elimination. There is something about a new year, a changing season, even a new week, which makes us feel hopeful for new behaviors and outcomes. They offer us endless opportunities to press the restart button.

This Wednesday (March 6) the season of Lent begins. For the 6 weeks between Ash Wednesday and Easter/Resurrection Sunday, many Christians will engage in some type of intentional habit changing activity in an effort to focus more on God, to confess and repent of sinful, destructive behaviors and attitudes, to be more loving, and maybe be more “Christ-like.” Some people give up all, or some specific, food (fasting); some give up television, social media or secular radio; some make the same promises they did for their New Year’s resolutions. Yet giving something up is only the first step. Something else, something holy, needs to fill the void left in our day: perhaps we spend the time in prayer, read Scripture, and/or serve in a volunteer capacity in some way.

What should you do? What does God require? Where do we start? I think I can help you with the answer to these questions through a story with which you may already be familiar.

Zacchaeus in a tree being called by Jesus.

Jesus entered Jericho and made his way through the town.  There was a man there named Zacchaeus. He was the chief tax collector in the region, and he had become very rich. He tried to get a look at Jesus, but he was too short to see over the crowd. So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree beside the road, for Jesus was going to pass that way. When Jesus came by, he looked up at Zacchaeus and called him by name. “Zacchaeus!” he said. “Quick, come down! I must be a guest in your home today.” Zacchaeus quickly climbed down and took Jesus to his house in great excitement and joy. But the people were displeased. “He has gone to be the guest of a notorious sinner,” they grumbled. Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “I will give half my wealth to the poor, Lord, and if I have cheated people on their taxes, I will give them back four times as much!” Jesus responded, “Salvation has come to this home today, for this man has shown himself to be a true son of Abraham. For the Son of Man[a came to seek and save those who are lost.” Luke 19:1-10 NLT

So basically one of the most despised people of this community wanted to get a look at this Jesus person everyone was making such a fuss over. There is no indication in the narrative that Zacchaeus called out to Jesus or that anyone introduced Zacchaeus to Jesus in anyway. Yet here we have Jesus calling out to Zacchaeus BY NAME. Not only that, Jesus invites Himself into Zacchaeus’ personal space. In this religious culture where “holy” people do not go into, interact with, or touch “unclean” places, people, or things, Jesus—God Incarnate— specifically enters the home of the worst of the worst. The only other conversation between Jesus and Zacchaeus the author thought was notable enough to include was Zacchaeus’ response to Jesus and Jesus’ subsequent promise. Without any apparent prompting or commands or requests for Zacchaeus to repent or anything, he takes it upon himself to change certain things about his life in the presence of the Lord. He looked at his life and all he had acquired and realized none of it was more valuable than salvation. He was compelled to make things right.

What do you think would happen if Jesus suddenly showed up in your house? Is there anything you have or do which you would suddenly want to get rid of or make right? Having Jesus sit in our home, seeing how we live, would remove all our pretenses. Suddenly, like Zacchaeus, we would see our excuses and justifications for what they really are. Suddenly we would realize that having popularity, approval, possessions, and being the master of our destiny pales in comparison to the salvation which Jesus holds.

Maybe I’m being naive. But something tells me that if we really seek the presence of Jesus this Lenten season, we already know what we need to do differently, what we need to subtract from and what we need to add to our lives. Fasting gives us an opportunity to be really intentional about seeking the presence of God above all other distractions. Let us make seeking the presence of Jesus our focus this Lenten season.

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One Month In…

Mom & Me at our Women’s ReTREAT
She is my inspiration!

A month ago I started the Keto diet as a test to address my auto-immune issues. As I said in my previous post, I want to keep you updated on my personal experience to help determine if this is just the latest fad, or if the claims are legitimate.

My results thus far continue to be encouraging. In the past 30 days:

  • I have lost almost 15 pounds, putting me at my lowest weight in over 2 years. (I had lost the initial 4lbs. of water weight I always lose when getting back on track the week before starting this.) Honestly, even when I have been extremely well-behaved in previous diets, I don’t remember losing 15 pounds in a month. Gaining it seems to come that easy, not losing it…
  • My energy levels have increased to the point that I am exercising nearly every day because I WANT to!
  • I’ve doubled my average daily steps and entered a StepBet. This has been a very encouraging app!
  • My mind is much clearer and my memory is much better. Note: After watching the previously mentioned docuseries (available again this weekend), I have been adding MCT oil daily, which is supposed to be brain food. It definitely seems to help.
  • My mood is more positive. (This could be due to diet AND exercise, since exercise is the best anti-depressant. You know when you’re feeling bad, getting motivated to exercise is a problem.)
  • My face is NOT clearing up, but it’s probably because I’m still drinking coffee…
  • My joint aches ARE gone.
  • I have not been experiencing any sugar cravings. Full disclosure: I did have some birthday cake for my birthday. But my tastebuds have definitely changed. The cake was too sweet!
  • My fatigue has lifted. I did not know how fatigued I was feeling until that feeling was gone. You’ve probably heard the metaphor of the frog in the kettle. If you suddenly put a frog in hot water, he will jump out. But if you start him in cold water and gradually increase the temperature, he will not recognize the gradual temperature change and will stay in the water until he is cooked. That was what the onset of fatigue had been like for me. But the lifting of it was so sudden it was very noticeable.
  • We are saving money because we aren’t eating out as much! Of course, the “down-side” of this is more effort in meal preparation. But since the meals are healthier, I don’t think of the lack of convenience as too much of a downer.
This can be a positive or negative cycle

During the past month I have been out to dinner several times, gone on a Women’s Retreat, and had a major birthday. So there were significant occasions to “cheat.” I was able to stay on course and wasn’t derailed by the slice of birthday cake. I feel so great, I have enthusiastically gotten several of my family members on board with this lifestyle.

Thankfully I have a very supportive hubby who does almost all of our meal planning and preparation. He has also gotten on board with this lifestyle and is losing weight. He has experienced one negative consequence which I want to warn you about. He replaced sugar and carbs with meat, specifically BACON. This elevated the uric acid levels in his blood giving him the worst case of gout he’s ever experienced. It’s been excruciating for him! Moral of the story: Keto does NOT equal “eat all the meat you want.” Moderation is key. The truth is, with the Keto lifestyle I eat much LESS food overall and stay full a lot longer. I eat less food because I get the dense calories from healthy (read “saturated”) fats. Vegetables just don’t have a lot of calories. Some people even do a vegetarian/vegan Keto lifestyle!

The experiment continues. School (and the accompanying stress and sedentary work) has just started back. There will be travel and another birthday celebration coming up. We will see if the results continue. In the meantime, I want to share with you a YouTube channel that was shared with me and has REALLY helped me get started on this program in a simple, understandable way. Start with the short video below and let me know what you think!

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M.S., Keto,

and my non-linear “Getting Healthy” journey

A lot has happened to me personally since I last posted here. That’s how life is, right? Here’s some highlights:

  • I’m over half-way through seminary! (WHOO-HOO!)
  • The hubby and I have become “empty-nesters” (turns out we were the ones making the mess in the house, not the kids).
  • I have gained all the weight back I lost in 2011-2012 (since that time I have lost and gained the same pounds over and over at the top end of the scale).
  • My exercise regimen had become “not so regular.”
  • I was diagnosed with rosacea (the acne kind), and found out that a LOT of foods I eat, the activities I enjoy, and stress, trigger it. Do you see the problem here? Do I enjoy my coffee and chocolate, and de-stress by gardening? Or do I have a clear face? Choices, choices…
  • I took an unexpected but fun trip to Washington D.C. to see my youngest son, who was living there at the time. What a blast! Now he’s in Colorado. A trip out there would be AWESOME!
  • We’ve done a fair amount of traveling for school and have really enjoyed it!
  • Oh! And last September (2018), I was diagnosed with M.S. (multiple sclerosis). I have (thankfully just) one lesion on the myelin sheath that protects the nerves on my spinal cord, interrupting nerve impulses to other parts of my body. The joke is, my immune system is so ready to fight, it’ll fight me if there’s nothing else to do. (I didn’t say it was a funny joke…)
At the Lincoln Memorial with the Handsome Boy

The M.S. diagnosis threw me for a loop. I may share that story in another post. But right now I want to share some of what I have learned since my diagnosis. Turns out my thyroiditis, rosacea, and multiple sclerosis are all auto-immune related issues. I have been doing a fair amount of praying and researching about them and my treatment options. In the midst of this, a friend of mine directed me to a docu-series hosted by Montel Williams, who was also diagnosed with M.S. It is a 9-part series, and at the time only the first episode was available. But it was enough to shock me and peak my interest. It’s called The Real Skinny on Fat, by Naomi Whittel and Montel Williams.

The entire series came out this week and I have watched it all. Some of it is repetitive. But most all of it is MIND-BLOWING! If what is presented is true, our culture has been duped for the last 60 years about diet and weight-loss; and it has profoundly and negatively impacted our health. I have checked some of their claimed statistics on the CDC and National Institute of Health (NIH) websites, and they line-up (showing correlation, but not necessarily causation). I am convinced enough that I have changed my eating habits to test the theory, and the results thus far have been VERY encouraging. And here’s the thing… the diet doesn’t cost anything! We didn’t have to buy any additional supplements, or books, or resources. We just had to cut out sugar (and artificial sweeteners), wheat/grains, and “vegetable” oils. But we get to eat the good, yummy fats (butter, coconut and olive oil, avocado, heavy cream, etc). And I am feeling GREAT! My Keto-diet experiment will continue, and I will update as I go. But I wanted to share the link to the docu-series now because, according to them, it is only available this weekend (January 25-27) starting at 9pm tonight (Friday, January 25). I strongly encourage you to watch it. It could revolutionize the health of our community! Click here to begin watching… and happy viewing!

P.S. The makers of the docu-series are hoping to sell the videos and some other info. It’s not required to view this weekend. I haven’t bought any of it yet. I’m still debating the idea in my mind because years of dieting has left me skeptical of fads… and still carrying a lot of extra weight. If I find out it’s all a bunch of hogwash, I’ll let you know that, also.

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Natural Disasters: A Community in Crisis

I want to acknowledge the co-authors of this work from my seminary class: Nathan Fields, Nicole Taylor and Beth White. It is my hope that in sharing what we learned this past Spring, more people will prepare to be effective workers with communities in crisis.

In light of the horrific impact Hurricane Harvey is wreaking in the United States, in addition to the horrible flooding in other parts of the world, I thought I would share parts of a research paper my small group presented to our Pastoral Crisis Intervention class this past Spring. Statistically we are seeing more and more natural disasters. “Since the 1980s there has been roughly a 400% increase in natural disasters” worldwide (Aten, 13). Even insurance companies call natural disasters “acts of God,” acknowledging the power of such events as beyond human control. By learning from previous disasters, we can take steps to prepare for future natural disasters and be ready to help.

Our research specifically looked at the role of the Pastoral care-giver. Pastoral care-givers function as spiritual leaders in our communities and, as such, should participate in trainings provided through organizations like Red Cross, Salvation Army, UMCOR and other denominational organizations, and federal and state emergency management agencies in order to mobilize congregations to care for those in our communities in the event of a natural disaster. Preparation for the pastoral care-giver should be physical, mental, spiritual and relational, for you will draw on all of these things in the moment of crisis. Yet it will not be enough; for natural disasters are all about chaos.

In natural disasters, the event is a crisis in and of itself, as well as a precipitating event for future crises through the recovery phases that follow. There are generally four recognized phases to disaster response: Heroic, Honeymoon, Disillusionment, and Reconstruction.

In the Heroic Phase the pastoral caregiver has to consider several points of focus:

  • the congregation members who are affected
  • community members who may be looking to the church for needed services such as shelter, food, clothing, emotional and spiritual support
  • First responders, other crisis workers, and pastors who may need the ministry resources of your church and your spiritual presence (Lindsey).

We have an advantage when caring for those within our congregation. We have often known these individuals and their families over a period of time, and are familiar with their personalities, gifts, and struggles.

Throughout the time of crisis in the community, there are a couple of things the pastor will keep at the forefront of her/his mind. Emotions run high and chaos is the rule during the Heroic phase. This phase can last from hours to days or even longer. If the church is serving as a shelter, the pastor’s presence is necessary there and not immediately at the hospital or on the scene; although s/he may also be needed in those places as the crisis unfolds. The pastor will be surrounded by needs in a natural disaster and may feel torn in a million different directions, never feeling s/he is doing enough. It is important to remember that the pastor’s primary role is the ministry of calm presence. By being present, the pastor can symbolize God’s compassionate presence in the midst of chaos.

The pastoral caregiver must be prayerful in response to the individual. This is a vulnerable time. One may offer to pray, or ask the individual if they would like to pray; but should not force a compliant response. “In the moment of crisis, many who are suffering desire an advocate who will plead their case before God, and in the prayer, they find comfort and assurance that God hears their plea” (Southern Baptist Disaster Relief Chaplain Training Manual, 11). However the attention of the pastoral caregiver should show no evidence of discrimination. Care recipients may or may not share the caregiver’s religion, race, politics or any other view the caregiver holds. Yet the pastor must be sensitive and respectful of these differences and beliefs as they administer care. The pastoral caregiver should also note any immediate physical needs of the care recipient and make the connections for those needed resources. In a natural disaster, the pastoral caregiver involved in the ministry of presence attends to whatever needs are presented in whatever ways s/he is qualified to give. For instance, since pastors are generally not medical professionals, they would not perform medical procedures beyond basic first aid for a disaster victim. However, they could hold the victim’s hand and bring compassionate comfort, listening to the victim, offering words of support as needed while the medical professionals are attending to them.

Phase 2, the Honeymoon Phase, begins to develop as the Heroic Phase ends. Depending on the crisis, it can last from days to months. Disaster agencies recognize a “rule of 10” for recovery phases. If the Heroic Phase lasts three days, the Honeymoon Phase can last 3 weeks, the Disillusionment Phase three months, and the Reconstruction Phase three years. This is not a hard and fast rule, but does give a predictable timeline for recovery efforts. During the Honeymoon phase, there tends to be a strong sense of community as people share the bond of surviving. Relief agencies and volunteers may start flooding in. If the community is not prepared, this can cause a “secondary disaster” as the community is overwhelmed with the generosity, and does not know how to disburse or organize it while coping with all the other issues with which they are dealing (Lindsey).

One of the key pastoral care and counseling issues during the Honeymoon Phase would be for the pastor to help the community navigate the help that arrives. Allison Lindsey, Associate Director of Connectional Ministries for the South Georgia Conference of the United Methodist Church, has recently been involved in the different recovery phases of several natural disasters in the South Georgia area. She stresses that “the event belongs to the community. The outside agencies and volunteers that come or send their resources come alongside the community members.” The pastoral caregiver, as a community leader, spiritual guide, counselor, and resource, can serve as a liaison between the incoming resources and the needs of the congregation and community.

Another pastoral care and counseling issue to consider during phase 2 and beyond is the emotional and mental care of children, teens, and mentally disabled. As adults are busy with the clean-up and immediate recovery efforts and stress, sometimes the young are overlooked. They may have special fears and specific difficulties processing their experience that adults may not recognize. The Honeymoon Phase is an ideal time for the pastoral caregiver to make sure resources are available to help young people process their experience.

“Inevitably, reality sets in. Governments put conditions on the assistance they will give, insurance companies find reasons not to pay out on survivors’ once greatest asset — their home — and the media and some helping agencies go home” (“Common Stages of Disaster Recovery”). The Honeymoon phase gradually slides into Phase 3, the Disillusionment Phase. As recovery drags on and resources are harder to obtain, frustrations, anger and despair increases. The sense of community which was once so strong in the previous phases dissipate as individuals begin to focus on their own needs and rebuilding their own lives (Kanel, 200). The pastoral caregiver faces unique challenges during the Disillusionment Phase as s/he sees more personal crises develop. This is a good time to start the cycle of the ABC Crisis Counseling approach again, checking on the survivors and assessing the needs. It is not certain that everyone will receive the help they need. People fall through the cracks of the system and can be left waiting for help that may never come. It is important to remember that socio-economic barriers exist for those who are lower income, undereducated, and/or of minority races. Often in natural disasters, immigrant communities can be affected even more prominently because they may not be fluent in the language or possess necessary documentation in secure locations (i.e. bank safety deposit box). This causes additional strife in a community which already has difficulty trusting the governmental agencies that may be offering assistance (Lindsey).

Disaster response agencies recognize a “ten percent rule for unmet needs”: of the people affected by the natural disaster, about ten percent will not qualify for available aid resources. So if 6000 people were displaced from a natural disaster, 600 will not qualify for any assistance (Lindsey). This is where the church can step in and help. By knowing the needs of the congregation and community, the pastor can place those needs before the congregation and other connectional ministries. This empowers the congregation and others in connectional ministries to be in mission at these points of need. The disaster survivor’s input is necessary here, also. The pastor and helpers must not assume what the needs are. The disaster survivors should help determine their preferred outcome (Lindsey).

The final phase is the Reconstruction Phase. At this point, the community gradually assumes responsibility for the rebuilding of their lives and establishing a new norm (Kanel, 200). This is long-term recovery. Rarely does life fall back into place quickly after a disaster. Often the long term effects change the dynamics of the entire community. Over time, a strong presence of church community can minister to needs of encouragement and care. The church can respond as a place of refuge and understanding, comfort and support.

The pastoral care and counseling issues in the Reconstruction Phase are similar to the previous phase. In all of the recovery phases, community support groups are an important resource. The support groups help community members navigate the various assistance applications, provide continuity and encouragement, and also enable the community to network their available resources. The church as a facility can provide locations for these groups to meet. The church as a body can provide the structure to sustain the groups.

Those in communities affected by natural disasters are in an extended crisis which will last for many years beyond the disaster itself and the initial physical and emotional recovery. It may be instinctual for a Christian relief group that comes with aid to attempt to proselytize those to whom they give aid, but “disaster relief is considered outreach, not evangelism” (Lindsey). It is essential to keep in mind that these individuals are in the midst of a crisis and are thus in a vulnerable state in which they may feel pressured to convert, or feel as if they must convert in order to receive the much needed aid. No matter whether it is truly forced or only perceived to be so, the result is the same, and coercion plays no part in the fullness of the Gospel. Our Savior loves us. He gives us the free will to choose whether or not His love is unrequited; but His love remains regardless of what we decide. In the same way, we are to give relief, support, hope, and love to those outside the Church who are experiencing and recovering from natural disasters without any pressure, or even expectation, they will join the Church. In these moments we will find that to love without pressure, to give without expectation, is a gospel preached at all times, even without speaking.

Benjamin Franklin once said, “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” Although no amount of training can completely prepare you for the trauma of a natural disaster, and each disaster scenario is completely unique, preparation is a key piece to moving through the recovery process of a natural disaster. Relief agencies such as UMCOR, Red Cross, Salvation Army, and Southern Baptist Disaster Relief offer training classes and curriculum for clergy and laity. Local and state government agencies offer emergency assessments to determine what physical resources your church has to offer. The relationships and resources the church holds are essential pieces in both the preparation for and recovery from a natural disaster.


Works Cited

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In the Eye of the Storm

To say it’s been an emotionally “stormy” few weeks would be an understatement. Our extended family had originally planned to be on a beach trip celebrating our parents’ 50th wedding anniversary this week. Parents, siblings, grandkids of all ages, it’s quite the group and we have lots of fun. That was the plan. Then the storm broke in.

Mom and Dad were already in Florida babysitting the youngest grands (the “Littles”). They are the cutest! At the end of that time (on a Sunday), Dad ended up in the hospital with a rogue ear infection which had become bacterial meningitis and mastoiditis. Who knew that could happen? It did not look good: ICU, induced coma, ventilator, the “works.” Doctors were not too optimistic. Family came down. Prayer requests went out. Hundreds responded. God heard. Miraculously, by Wednesday of that week, he came off the ventilator and was coherent, recognized everyone, responded to commands, could talk and swallow. Even the doctors were astonished. It was NOT the outcome they had expected. The nurses and other care-givers were so loving and gracious. Dad was thanking everyone, praising God, witnessing to the doctors. We were celebrating and contemplating the next steps. Looking back, it was an eye in the storm.

By Friday, the storm started raging again. Dad started having some breathing problems. They got worse fast. That night the attending physician made the call to put him back on the ventilator (that’s a long story in itself.) It was a long night with more prayer requests sent out. By the next morning things were looking better and they took him back off the vent. When he woke up this time, though, he was a bit more serious. The trauma had affected him. On Sunday he seemed stable and on the mend. It was still “raining” and “cloudy,” but surely the sun was shining and clear skies were on the horizon. We said our good-byes and several of us headed back home to Georgia.

The week progressed and at some point he was moved out of ICU to a “step down floor.” Clouds were starting to clear. Plans were made again. However, this storm apparently had another “eye.” Or maybe it was another storm, I don’t know. But by Sunday the clouds were rolling in again. You know how storms are. You see a few clouds and don’t think anything of it. You sense a change in atmosphere, but dismiss it. Then all of a sudden the winds kick up, the lightening strikes and the thunder rolls. On Monday of this week, Dad was moved back to ICU. Doctors weren’t sure what was going on. Thankfully they recognized he would be best treated by his medical professionals at home, so they put in orders to have him transferred (what we were originally told the insurance company wouldn’t allow). Now he’s back in Georgia under the care and supervision of his specialty doctors. We are cautiously optimistic.

I haven’t listened to contemporary Christian radio in at least a week. But for some reason this morning, the song “In the Eye of the Storm” was queued in my subconscious. I was singing what little I could remember of it as I walked into work. I went into the Ministry Center for the juice of consciousness (coffee), and there was a group in there getting ready for River of Life. They had the radio playing on the same. exact. song. God had cued my subconscious and then poked my consciousness on the shoulder. I had to go look it up and see the lyrics. It turns out to be the perfect reminder for today. God knew that. He is our Anchor, no matter the storm.

I link it here for you because maybe your skies are cloudy. Maybe the wind is knocking you around. His love surrounds you in the eye of the storm. Be blessed!

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The Joy of Childhood

It’s VBS week at our church. With full-time work and school, I thought I really didn’t have time to help with it. But our children’s directors were desperate for volunteers so I agreed. They put me with the 4K group! I was more than a bit anxious of how I was going to make it through this week, concerned that my energy level would be zapped. It’s been awhile since I’ve worked with young children.

Now it is Friday morning and I am sad it’s the last day! I have experienced the joy, creativity, and love of God every day in these sweet children and in the other volunteers, especially our youth workers. The music is etched in my brain to the point that I’m singing it in my dreams; but it’s praises to God, so it’s wonderful. This week has restored joy to my spirit and INCREASED my energy!

It is so easy to get overwhelmed with theological studies and adult problems in church, work and at home (budgets, bills, meetings, reports, planning, house care, family care, etc.). This week God spoke to me through the children, even as they ran around, playing with new friends, just laughing and singing and enjoying life, knowing that they were cared for and watched over and loved. He spoke anew to me: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever becomes humble like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes Me” (Matthew 18:3-5, NRSV). 

We GET to be in ministry and serve God and people. With God in charge, that’s exciting!

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Setting a Goal, Day 3

Good Afternoon Christ Walk Group!

I have a special challenge for you. We have an opportunity to get our steps in AND help someone else!


Wesley Glen Ministries is a wonderful organization which provides care and housing for adults with developmental disabilities. The cost to participate is $28 if you register now. We would love to have a group walk together. I have registered for the 5K. Of course, if you have a more competitive nature and want to win some prizes, go ahead! We don’t want to hold you back. 🙂

For more information, check out this link: http://cherryblossomroadrace.com. Comment below if you will be joining us. Also let us know of other causes we can support with our steps!

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